Cigars With Eric

Anyone who’s followed my blog knows that I have a real affinity for fine cigars. I am constantly looking for opportunities to indulge my passion.  Fortunately, I was able to satisfy that interest several times this week with friends and business associates.  It was my meeting with Eric on Monday that was most enjoyable and therefore memorable.

 

For the past few months, we have been trying to schedule time for a cigar and a beer at his favorite neighborhood cigar bar, Highland Cigar Company.  I enjoyed our first meeting there and have been looking forward to a return visit.  I was pleased that we were able to schedule time Monday afternoon.

 

The first thing I noticed when I entered Highland Cigar was that it was much larger than my last visit. They’re obviously doing well as they expanded into an adjacent space, increasing their footprint by half.  Clearly, Highland Cigar is a popular place that’s doing well.

 

Eric arrived first and secured a couple of comfortable chairs.  After a friendly greeting, I headed for the humidor to make my cigar selection.  However, Eric stopped me and said that he brought a couple of his favorites for me to try. That was nice. One was a Rocky Patel, and the other, a Perdomo. Both featured Maduro wraps.

 

We did not have an agenda to discuss business issues.  It was meant to be a way to ease into the week with a relaxing conversation and to get to know one another better.  Even so, there was one issue that I wanted to discuss with Eric; a follow-up to a brief conversation from Friday’s monthly ITB Partners Members meeting. Before the meeting, I told Eric and two other colleagues about the prior days “lunch with four interesting people.”  I began our meeting by embellishing on Friday’s set-up.   I told him I was most impressed by our host and the concept of the lunch. I went on to say that I planned to refer him and our other colleagues to John, (not his real name) so that they would have an opportunity to meet him as well.

 

Eric, on the other hand, wanted to talk about options for a permanent office space, where we could gather more easily, even spontaneously to conduct business.  He was thinking of a virtual office, co-working space.  Our options include WeWork, Intelligent office, Regus, Industrious, Liquidspace, and Servecorp.  Having recently spent time in an Intelligent office location, I was excited about our conversation as well. I was totally engaged with Eric.  He went on to say that his son and daughter-in-law conduct their business from a WeWork office in Philadelphia.  When Eric mentioned his son and daughter-in-law, I saw an opportunity to steer the conversation away from our business interests.

 

At that point, I redirected the conversation toward a personal discussion beginning with Eric’s background.  You could say that I went into an executive recruiting mode.   My executive search experience has helped me refine my listening skills.  I have learned that getting to know someone requires patience to listen to them and ask follow up questions for clarification.  Asking questions serves to keep the conversation moving and demonstrates a genuine interest in the other.  It is how bonds of trust are created.

 

I remembered that Eric was originally from the Philadelphia area, however, I did not recall much about his education and early career experience.  I learned that Eric was a music major in college, a classical guitarist. He went on to say that by the age of 27 he was the Music Director for Hart college.  He told me how he met his wife, and his decision to change careers from music to project management, and later, earning a master’s degree from George Washington University.  I asked if he still plays the guitar.  He said he does and showed me a promotional photo of his trio.  He performs with another guitarist and a vocalist.  They had a gig scheduled for Friday night.  One question led to another and before long he was showing the work of an artist friend, Max Zorn.  Max creates incredible images using brown packing tape.  We talked about his travel through Spain with his wife: The walk of northern Spain also known as the Way of Saint James, then a more recent visit to Scotland.

 

The cigars and beers with Eric were enjoyable and relaxing.  Getting to know and understand Eric on a more personal level was, as the commercial goes, “priceless.”

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Lunch With Four Interesting People

I enjoyed “the most interesting man in the world” advertising campaign for Dos Equis beer.  It was a big hit that inspired many Internet memes and skits on Saturday Night Live.  Everyone could identify with that theme.  From what I understand, it was successful as the brand saw year-over-year sales increases in the face of overall declining US beer consumption. Of course, that was when actor Jonathan Goldsmith played the debonair gentleman with a lifetime of memorable experiences and beautiful women at his side. His replacement, French actor Augustin Legrand, not so much. Ultimately that campaign was scrubbed in 2018.

I cannot claim to be the most interesting man in the world, however, for two hours on Thursday I was one of four interesting people. It was during that time then I stumbled on a novel if not completely new networking technique.  The title of the event is “lunch with four interesting people.”  Our host, let’s call him John, is a wealth management executive with one of the larger banks in the area.  He has been conducting this luncheon once a month for the past 18 months.  His lunches are by invitation only, referrals from prior guests. The idea is to become acquainted with one another on a personal level. Unlike most networking events, it isn’t overtly business-related, even though we all spoke to some extent about our occupations.

I arrived at noon, and John’s administrative assistant escorted me to a private room where I met John and the other guests.  When everyone was seated, the administrative assistant thanked us all for attending the luncheon and then made her exit.  At that time, John thanked us again for accepting his invitation and provided background on the concept.  As opposed to more traditional business networking events the overall point of this luncheon is designed to resemble a cocktail party. The structure is spontaneous, allowing each of the participants to ask questions of one another to keep the conversation moving.  To minimize wasted time ordering from the menu, we chose our meal days before the event.  The only decision we had to make was choosing our beverage and dessert.

John explained that due to a very severe encounter with cancer he had come to realize the value of nurturing personal relationships. The concept of lunch was a result of his epiphany.  He began with his story which was very compelling.  As it turns out, we have a few things in common.  We are about the same age, sporting full heads of silver hair.  We are transplants to Atlanta whereas the other guests grew up in the area.  Additionally, we are military brats; his father having served in the Navy while mine served in the Air Force.

When John was finished providing his background, he went around the table clockwise, asking a question of each guest, to begin the presentation of their personal story. Each guest received a different inquiry, so there was no way to prepare an initial response.  The other guests were encouraged to ask questions of the presenter to keep the conversation going.  It was like a cocktail party, much less structured and improvisational.  Two of the other guests, one a female, were probably in their early to mid-40s, and the other was closer to my age.  The lady at the table is a television producer, whereas the two gentlemen are attorneys.

I was the last to reveal my background.  John asked me, “if you were to send a letter to your younger self, what would it say?”  Although I didn’t expect that question, I was prepared to answer as I had pondered that thought many times over the years.  I said that I would encourage my younger self to come to Atlanta early in my career and to avoid corporate moves of questionable value.  That led to questions of where I grew up, my favorite place to live, and advice on interacting with grown children.

At the end of the meeting, one of the servers took a group photo, and John encouraged us to refer someone for the October luncheon.

I spend a great deal of my time networking, but I found this meeting to be most refreshing, as it was about making new friends.  If it leads to business opportunities, then that would be an added benefit.  For anyone looking for a different twist on building a network, I recommend that you consider this concept.

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On Coaching Independent Consultants

I don’t mind an early morning drive to Canton Georgia to meet with one of my coaching clients. Actually, I’m happy to make the trek. So, I made my obligatory visit to have breakfast with Tom on Friday morning. Of all the consultants I coach, Tom seems to struggle the most. This is the sixth time I’ve met with him in the past year and I must say that I am frustrated too.

 

Prior to our meeting, I gave considerable thought to my strategy for this coaching session. I have known Tom for almost 15 years, and I consider him a friend.  I needed to find the proper mix of listening and inquiry to understand his problem and offer suggestions for possible solutions. I knew that active listening would occupy the bulk of our meeting.

 

Tom arrived and got right to get to the point. We hadn’t even ordered our breakfast when he told me that he needed to find a small group to ensure his success.  Although I didn’t react to his comment, I recognized the irony as he is part of a small group.  I pushed that thought into the back my mind for further consideration.

 

Naturally, given his opening salvo, I asked him for more clarification to better understand his thinking.  Having had a lot of coaching experience, I know that the initial problem statement is seldom ever the real issue. It is usually a conversation starter, otherwise, he would’ve been a position to solve his own issues.  To be fair, Tom’s opening statement was really one of the symptoms of the problem to be addressed.  I knew it would take me a while to get to the actual problem.

 

He went on to say that through his work with his primary client he met a commercial real estate developer who engaged him in a conversation about doing business development work on their behalf.   He also mentioned that he had received an inquiry about writing a training program for a restaurant company based in New York. That opportunity was as a referral from a friend.  He then mentioned the need to have other contacts who could take on some of his workload so that he could become more productive and solicit other projects.  It was at this point that Tom told me that his real strength and interest is project execution.  The significance of that revelation was better understood later in our conversation.

 

When Tom finished his opening statement, I asked him for an update on his primary contract. He said that his client is having a banner year, on track to generate three times the revenue of 2017. Their recovery is creating stress, however as they are having difficulty finding reliable subcontractors to perform their work. Some of what he spoke about relates to the principal’s lack of executive skills, which we had previously discussed. This is a recurring theme in our discussions as there is a clear opportunity to expand his engagement into more strategic issues. Naturally, I inquired about his ability to expand the conversation in that direction.

 

I learned that Tom’s role with this client is a lot more tactical than strategic. I thought he was a project manager, with multiple projects under his supervision. I was surprised to learn that he is a site manager, one of many, reporting to a project manager.  Reflecting on his earlier point about his strength in project execution, I began to gain clarity about the fundamental problem.  Finally, we were closing in on the real issue. Tom is stuck in a situation where he has little influence and is underpaid compared to his potential.  In some ways, this came as a surprise to me, but overall, not so much.  His frustration is understandable.

 

Tom’s consulting project has turned into a low-level supervisory job.  This is a bad place to be for an independent consultant.  The question is how to recover? Clearly, the client doesn’t have enough confidence in Tom to work with him at a strategic level.  We need to find a way to re-introduce Tom to the owners.

 

One possible solution is an indirect approach whereby he encourages the principal to engage in one of our networking groups.  This would give him an opportunity to meet other professionals, gain exposure for his business, and identify ways to develop his professional skills.  This might be a useful solution to help Tom develop greater strategic awareness as well.

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Covergence

Do you ever wonder why a series of related events seem to converge at about the same time?  It is funny how life can unfold.  I experienced one of those convergences this week.

I can’t remember the exact date when I last saw Tom. I know it’s been at least three years, maybe more. I remember that it was a networking event over scotch and cigars at Prohibition, a popular watering hole in Buckhead.  As I’ve said before, my favorite way to conduct business is in a relaxed atmosphere, with a fine cigar and a cocktail.  Indeed, Tom and I have that in common.

I first came to know Tom someplace around 2005. We were both members of the Marietta Chamber of Commerce and the Georgian Club. He owned a business that supported network systems and all things IT related.  He’s always been an active net-worker, facilitating multiple groups, and participating in others.

Fortunately, I have remained on Tom‘s mailing list, following his activities even if I haven’t been able to participate.  We are connected on LinkedIn, so it wasn’t much of a surprise when he reached out to me this week. I was delighted to hear from him as he was on my call list too.   We agreed to meet on Thursday evening at Cigar City Club in Sandy Springs.

Cigar City is another of my favorite places because of its location and ambiance. Even though I visit Cigar City just a few times each year, I am never disappointed.  On the other hand, Tom is a regular.  In fact, he has his own perch. He knows everyone at the club and they know him.  That comes as no surprise as Tom knows everyone in Atlanta. At least it seems that he does.  He’s just that kinda guy, smart, affable, and very engaging.

We arrived at the same time, chose our cigars, ordered drinks, and planted ourselves in Tom‘s favorite spot on the patio. As one could imagine we had a lot of catching up to do, beginning with an update on our businesses. Tom said that business was good but could always be better. I said, “I can relate to that.” He went on to say that he’s concerned that he may lose his largest account due to its acquisition. That would be a big blow to his business. He told me about some personal issues which required him to dial back his networking activities and that his groups had run their course.  Now he is motivated to re-engage.  Well, I knew had the solution to his situation.

I thanked Tom for reaching out to me, as I had a lot of news for him as well.  I began with the expansion of my business to support freelance consultants and that I was facilitating the Atlanta Chapter of the Business Executives Networking Group (BENG). It was about that time that Tom‘s girlfriend arrived, adding a whole new dynamic to the discussion.

She is also in the IT field, doing project management work for a large global manufacturer with offices in Atlanta.  After she made her introduction, Tom told her that she needed to hear about ITB Partners.  That led to a very productive and interesting exchange, so much so that it even peaked Tom‘s interest.

When the business updates were behind us, the evening turned to talk about personal interests and opportunities.  Before I knew it, it was past 8 o’clock, time to make my exit. If I had any less discipline I could easily have fired up another cigar and ordered my third cocktail.  If I had done so, I probably would have needed an Uber driver to take me home, resulting in a wasted Friday.  As I had a 9:00 a.m. coffee meeting, which was rescheduled from the original meeting last week, self-control was required.

Thanks to my timely departure I was able to make Friday’s coffee meeting.  My appointment was with a gentleman I met at the August BENG meeting.  A Scrum Master with impeccable credentials, he has been in job search since the beginning of the year.  As we talked about his career interests and how I might be helpful, I reflected on the prior evening with Tom and his girlfriend.  Everything came together.  They would be excellent contacts!  Convergence.

The older I become, the less I believe in coincidences.

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Join Us for the September 11th BENG Meeting featuring Stan Stout

Join Us for the September Atlanta BENG Chapter Meeting at our NEW BENG MEETING LOCATION featuring Stan Stout who will present:

“Stupid Things We Encounter in Job Search”

 

Stan Stout: an Experienced leader with a unique blend of strategic focus / forward thinking, strategic focus and the ability to lead and manage execution. Linkedin

 

 

 

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The Atlanta – Business Executives Networking Group (BENG) is a non-profit networking organization for mid to senior level professionals with over 10 years of business experience. BENG provides its members with:
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